Smell that?

Some of the most pleasurable moments while walking to class are being caught off guard by the addition of a nice scent- someone's perfume, the flowers, baking smells coming through apartment windows- it could be anything. Most often though, the smells our noses come in contact with are not pleasant. Case in point- your own body. We produce smells, not a single one of which is pleasurable. We are essentially toxic smell bags, doing everything in our power to hold them in and cover them up. We (attempt) to step away for flatulence, we apologize for burps, and slather ourselves head to toe is scented soaps/ shampoos/ deodorants/ perfumes to hide any natural odors that may escape our skin bags.

It's no wonder we produce only toxic smells. Have you ever seen what food does? I once spit out a partially chewed cookie after being caught off guard by how bad it tasted, and forgot to throw away the cup I'd spit it in. I found it a few days later, and was horrified to see how it'd grown and fermented. That happens inside of us. We are full of decaying food, that is in the process of becoming shit. That is its only destiny- or perhaps to be sweated out when being used as fuel for our bodies. Either way, it will never become some beautiful fragrance once it touches our lips. We don't make a single nice smelling substance.

Plants, on the other hand, smell delightful.
They eat sunlight, which is probably the best food in the world. They get to sunbathe all day and never worry about what to eat for lunch, or how many calories it will be, or when they will have time between classes to quiet their bellies grumblings. They then take beautiful warm sunlight, and make pretty green things, or brilliantly colored flowers that have delicate and pleasing aromas. Why can't be flowers? Flowers don't have to write english papers....they just have to wait for the sun to grace them with their presence once more.

Happy Mothers Day

Tomorrow is mother's day, a day so very needed to give mother's their deserved recognition for all that they do. Moms are the ones making sure things run, taking care of the little details most of us are oblivious to that help keep life on track. Without them, we would surely all be lost. Or at least missing a lot of more items around the house. 

Tomorrow I won't be able to bake my mother any special goodies or spend the day with her, which is a sad thing. I wish that I could be to thank her for all of her help and knowing that I've always got someone if I ever need advice or support. 

I was never a terrible child, but just like any child I certainly had my moments. My mom has been incredibly patient through my various phases, over emotional, melodramatic preteen years, through my bitchy moments in high school, and she's stayed respectful and allowed me to discover a bit of freedom as I go off to college. 

I miss being able to bitch about my day, or share moments of elation while people watching because of the true absurdity that exists in the world- and it's so nice to have someone who can understand the joy that their ridiculous existence brings. 

I look forward to the summer, where I will hopefully be able to share more mornings over coffee while the rest of the house sleeps or go grocery shopping while planning out family meals. 

My mom has taught me all I know today that enables to be a competend individual in the world, and that is a priceless gift that deserves more than cooked desserts presents or blog entries of praise, but it's all I have. 

Happy Mothers Day to all the moms who do so much for us, you deserve more than a single day a year for all that you do. 

kid causes

When considering beginning a family...what is it that goes though people's heads while debating creating a new life? I had a reading for my English class that talked about how so many children fell into these group homes because they wanted to get away from their parents- not necessarily because of abuse, but more often because of neglect. Emotional neglect because their parents were too busy working and then too tired to bother with them, or too drugged out to connect with their kids- so rather than staying in the uncomfortable setting of living with someone you don't care for (much like being in a dorm room...) they opt instead to leave.
It got me wondering what it was that caused people to have kids (disregarding accidents).
No child ever asks to be born. It is no ones fault that they exist, they just happened to be created and forced to live out this existence in whatever body they've been given. But when creating these people- what motivates parents?
Do they think they are proving a vessel for one of the millions of imaginary spirits just waiting for an opportunity to come to this world?
Is it so that they will have someone who needs them to give their life a purpose?
Are they bored and want another person to interact with?
Maybe some parents are ensuring they have their own safety net- someone to look after them in their old age who will care about them more than the nurses in an old folks home.
Or perhaps its just what people do at that time of life, so they might as well join the bandwagon. Don't wanna get left behind.

I recently saw a statistic in my psychology book that said that the majority of marriages decrease in happiness when a child is introduced into the mix. Mostly because of the added stresses- women having too much responsibility for the child and men feeling the burden of providing for everyone. If more couples knew that, most likely, they'd be less happy with their partner once they had a child, would they still do it?
I really am curious as to what drives most people to willingly accept the financial burden a child, plus the responsibility of having to raise your own personal goo bag so it doesn't turn out to be a complete dick and burden on society later in life. And what if you get a bad egg, that continues to be a terror despite all your best efforts?
Maybe its the curiosity of finding out what you'd create- will it get your bad genes in terms of cavities, or maybe it'll inherit your intelligence and now you've provided the world with a fabulous new brain that can improve the world and solve all the problems. (only if you're Sheldon Cooper)
I had thought for a long time that if I ever were to have kids that I'd adopt them- but then i realized that if I can't blame myself for this quirk and that flaw, and take credit for that achievement, well...I'd probably have even less patience for it that if it were my own creation.
Probably genetics are the main motivator- some have come to the conclusion that the point of life is to continue life, and in our own day to day struggles to keep on living the way we'd like, that often seems like the most likely theory.